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062. Sit Allow Discover = S.A.D.

What if the feeling you've been working so hard to avoid is actually carrying the message you most need to hear?

Last episode, we talked about manifesting, and how real change happens when we’re brave enough to look honestly at what’s standing in our way. Next episode, I’m sitting down with Ronni Athay to talk about alchemy: turning lead into gold. So today is the bridge between the two. Today we’re going to talk about the lead. The heavy stuff. The sadness, grief, disappointment, and hurt that most of us would rather skip right past. And I’m going to give you a simple practice I call S.A.D.: Sit, Allow, Discover.

Are you ready to learn the tools to engage in your own healing? Join my Light It Up club! We meet every Monday evening on Zoom at 8:30 PM. $29/month, access to recorded videos, pdfs, worksheets, artwork, and my coaching notes. Best of all, connection with like-minded women who come to know and love each other!

Resources

  • Brach, T. (2019). Radical Compassion: Learning to Love Yourself and Your World with the Practice of RAIN. Viking. tarabrach.com/rain
  • Bolte Taylor, J. (2008). My Stroke of Insight: A Brain Scientist’s Personal Journey. Viking. (Sit: the 90-second emotional wave.)
  • Lieberman, M. D., et al. (2007). “Putting Feelings Into Words.” Psychological Science, 18(5), 421–428. (Sit: naming emotions.)
  • Hayes, S. C. (2019). A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters. Avery. (Allow: acceptance in ACT.)
  • Neff, K. (2011). Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. William Morrow. self-compassion.org (Allow; Story two.)
  • Wegner, D. M., et al. (1987). “Paradoxical Effects of Thought Suppression.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 53(1), 5–13.
  • Gross, J. J., & Levenson, R. W. (1997). “Hiding Feelings: The Acute Effects of Inhibiting Negative and Positive Emotion.” Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 106(1), 95–103.
  • Schwartz, R. C. (2021). No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model. Sounds True. (Discover: curiosity toward parts.)
  • David, S. (2016). Emotional Agility. Avery. And TED Talk (2017), “The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage.” ted.com (Discover; quote; Story one.)
  • Crisis support: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (U.S.), call or text 988. 988lifeline.org